One Aspect of Womanhood

Women are "anticipatory" creatures by nature.

I don't know if that's a real word or not.

Sometimes I make up words to express myself...

that's my point here...

Men see things or people as they are.

Women see things or people as they can become.

Men check things off their to-do list.

When finished, they watch t.v.

A woman's to-do list is never done.

There is always something or someone that needs cleaning,

straightening, "fixing"...

Women anticipate...

they can walk in a room and in 30 seconds

figure out how to "be of help",

how to "speed things up",

how to "make things prettier".

I once had an employer who called me a butterfly.

At any social event, he said I was always fluttering around.

My response was (and still is)...

"That's what women do...they flutter...they see a need

and try to make it better."

It's not all we do, but it's what we do best.

Sometimes our "anticipatory" mode gets us in trouble.

We tend to worry a LOT.

Now I know that it's not a good thing to worry,

but we do.

We know an oncoming train wreck when we see it coming,

and we want our loved ones to avoid it at all costs.

(By the way, men see it as a light at the end of the tunnel.)

Regardless of your lot in life,

99.9% of women are great at spotting needs

 and doing their best to fulfill them.

We women are complex creatures.

But where in the world would the world be without us?



Angela

Thoughts About Mothers

My Mother, Anne

Mother's Day has taken on a new tone for me. After losing my mother 3 1/2 years ago, the weekend of Mother's Day is quite hard. I still find myself at Christmas and Mother's Day, looking for the appropriate gift for her and suddenly remembering that there's no need. I long for the chance to hear her voice on the phone. Tears flow when I think of all the times I was "too busy" to chat for very long.

Every time I'd go to my parents house to visit, the first thing my mother always did was offer me a Diet Dr. Pepper. No matter what the time of day, she knew I liked them and so did she...usually I'd decline because I was rushed and "too busy". My personal life has had many twists and turns...many of them not happy...so it seems that I am always careening from one drama to another. In doing so, I've lost the ability to sit and visit and soak in the love of others. I've lost precious moments which I can never regain. The worst part of losing time with my mother is that I could have learned so much more from her. She was wise, witty, pretty and so much more... everything you'd want a mom to be.

As I sit here typing this post, tears flow once again. Even though I am approaching my sixty second birthday, I need a mother. I need a wiser older woman to reassure me that things are ok and that life, even though difficult, will turn out just the way God wants it to, and I can rest in that knowledge.

Maybe this should be a flash point ... I ask myself, "What would my mother want me to do at a time like this?" And I believe the answer is ... she'd want me to "mother" someone else ... someone who, like me, needs a mother's touch, a kind and encouraging word.

Here I am, with the whole day before me.... I have the time, and I'm going to get up, dress, go to the grocery store and buy the ingredients for a meal and take it to somebody who needs encouragement today... I'm not too busy and I'm NOT going to miss this opportunity. I hope you won't either.

Seize the day, hug your mom...